Dogs are companion animals and like to be around their owners. So when you leave the house without your, one look in his eyes will tell you he’s not happy.
Most dogs accept your comings and goings with a sigh, but others might have a hard time understanding why you’re there one moment and gone the next. Your dog may feel insecure and worry that you won’t come back. And while you’re gone, he may bark, whine or howl in fear. Your worried dog may also become destructive, make messes inside the house, refuse to eat or attempt to escape the yard or house.
There are several theories why a dog may be afraid of being away from his owner, says Dr. Anderson. Dogs that have been abandoned once before are the most likely suffers of separation anxiety – they’ll assume they will be left again by their new owners.
Dramatic lifestyle changes, such as moving to a new house or sudden stress in the home, can bring on separation anxiety. And dogs who have had constant contact with their owners (because their owners are retired or work from home) will also find it difficult when their owner has to spend time away from them for some reason.
Ways to Overcome It:
“There are many things you can do to make your dog feel more secure when you go away,” says Myers. Start by crating him when you are away. Just like some small children who would rather be in their bedroom than wandering around a huge house, many anxious dogs prefer being in a small, confined space. Putting your dog in his crate will help to relax him and will prevent him from pacing about anxiously or trying to escape. He can’t destroy the house, either, from inside his crate.
Myers also suggests giving your dog more exercise. “Even if you have to get up earlier in the morning, add a vigorous 20- to 30- minute running session every day prior to leaving him alone. Not only does this tire your dog out, but it reassures him that you are in charge.” And when he trusts you as the leader, he won’t worry about what you are up to.
Desensitizing your dog to your comings and going also helps. Get him accustomed to seeing your routine of locking the door, lowering the drapes or putting on your sweater every time you leave the house. Try leaving the house for just short periods of time. In the beginning, leave for a few seconds and come right back. Don’t rush to congratulate him the instant you come back in the door – you don’t want to make out your absences. If he’s been quiet, praise him calmly a few minutes after you return.
Once he seems comfortable with this, gradually add another minute to your absences, then five, and practice going out several times a day. It might take a week or even a month or two before your dog feels calm about being apart from you, but once he’s secure, he’ll be less nervous about being alone.